After…
7 days of sleeping in guest beds, on couches, and in recliners…
6 days during which we drove over five hundred miles total…
5 days of eating leftover Christmas ham and au gratin potatoes…
4 days of media “concern” for retail stores, which haven’t made enough money this holiday season…
3 days of end of the year recaps on all the news I didn’t care about the first time around…
2 days of opening presents…
and 1 day of rest…
We are finally home again. Seven days of holiday travel. And yesterday, as we were preparing to leave, my Grandpa said to me, with a disappointed look, “Gee, I thought you were staying another day or two.”
When I say we opened presents over the course of two days, that is no exaggeration, either. My son had five Christmases this year. On Christmas Eve, he opened presents at my Mom’s house, my Dad’s house, and my Grandpa’s house…then on Christmas day we went to Pittsburgh, and he opened up presents from Lynn’s family. Then we came home yesterday, and he opened presents we had left for him here at home.
He got a Nintendo DS from my Mom, a Wii Fit from my Dad, a Millenium Falcon playset from Lynn and I for his Star Wars figures, a rather large Lego Star Wars playset from Lynn’s sister (I emphasize the “large” because I’m the one who will have to build most of it), and assorted other things that he hasn’t even opened or played with yet. And my Grandpa gave him a hundred dollar bill in an envelope.
A hundred dollars! I was lucky to get twenty bucks from a family member when I was a kid. My grandparents never gave me money, because they always bought me presents. But I guess this year, without Grandma to do the shopping, Grandpa didn’t know what to give him.
And yet somewhere in the midst of all this excess, the retailers are weeping because consumers didn’t spend enough in their stores.
Overall, we had a good holiday, maybe one of the best despite this year’s losses. It was extremely weird and unsettling to go to my Grandpa’s on Christmas Eve, as we always do, only to find to our shock that Grandma isn’t there. One of the first things Brendan said was, “Grandpa, where’s your Christmas tree?”
He seemed surprised by the question and answered, “It’s only me here now. I didn’t put one up.”
He said later, in one of the few comments he made referring to his loss, that Christmas was Grandma’s favorite time of year and it just wasn’t the same without her.
One thing about extended travelling, though, is that it makes you appreciate your own home and your own bed even more when you return. I slept in uncomfortable guest beds, in many cases apart from my wife because there wasn’t a bed big enough for the two of us. At Lynn’s mother’s house, she doesn’t even have a bed for any of us, so I slept in a recliner while Lynn and Brendan slept on the sofa. Honestly, I think I got the better bed in that situation. Recliners are remarkably comfortable, as long as you don’t need to lie on your side to sleep.
For the most part, we felt like we were on other people’s schedules. My mom still had to get up for work at 3:30 in the morning; Lynn’s sister still came down to let the dog out at dawn, as she, too, was getting ready for work. Now we’re back to our own life and our own schedules, and I’m glad of it. I’ve got the rest of the week off to enjoy the comfort of my bed and the quiet of my house.
And some time during this week, I have to take a few hours to build this huge Lego set which I am fairly certain will be disassembled almost as soon as my son gets his hands on it to play with. Good thing I enjoy building Legos; Legos are one toy I always wanted, but never had as a kid. My parents thought they were too expensive, which of course they are.
Last night, I spent about an hour putting together the Millenium Falcon for Brendan. Compared to the one I had as a kid back in the early eighties, this thing is huge and incredibly detailed. It’s 2 1/2 feet long, with battery operated lights and sounds, a cockpit that seats not just two, but four figures (just like in the movie). Most important, the radar dish and laser cannons actually remain in place. On the original I had as a kid, one of the frustrations was that it was so cheaply made that pieces like the radar dish and landing gear were always falling off.
One thing hasn’t changed, though: an adult still has to put the stickers on it. I remember the Christmas when I got my Millenium Falcon, my Dad and I put it together at my Grandpa’s on Christmas morning. I was a bit obsessive compulsive about everything being just right, and my Dad really didn’t care where he put the stickers, or whether they were crooked or not. I remember feeling a bit of anger towards him because he didn’t seem to care whether the stickers looked haphazardly put on or not.
Last night as I put the stickers on Brendan’s ship, I had a flashback to that Christmas Day in 1979 or ‘80, only this time I found that I was the one with the big, thick adult fingers trying to place tiny little stickers in difficult to reach places inside the ship. Suddenly “somewhat straight” was good enough for me, and luckily Brendan doesn’t seem to be as obsessive about neatness as I was back then.
Overall, it’s kind of ironic how time seems to circle back on itself every once in awhile. My Dad seemed to acknowledge that as well when, back in November, he asked Brendan what he wanted for Christmas. Brendan said, “The Millenium Falcon.”
Dad said, “Gee, I think I remember another little boy asking for that same thing one year.”
Every little boy wants to be Han Solo.